divorce tragedy

             I have been through pain, suffering, and misery when my husband left July 2010. The night before he asked me what i really felt about divorce and the tone of his voice was such that i knew he was serious. 2 days later he rented a single apt and that's when i found out he had a mistress. We had been married 11 years and had 2 children a boy and a girl both grown now. My husband got a job as a correctional officer for the state of California prison system.Over time his demeaner changed more and more to the point of isolating himself and not interacting in family outings. I know the feelings of despair, hope, being threatened and rejection. My first court appearance was for Oct 12 2012 and had no lawyer and i desperately searched for one. Untill a family friend i grew up with told me about a best friend he had that was a divorce lawyer and the next thing i knew at last minute, I had some hope that someone was going to represent me at little to no cost. I know not everyone will have such luck but im here to talk to and try to guide you as best i can to help give you hope and encourage you not to give up. I know some of the tricks that my ex husband tried to pull and have insight to some of the laws and proceedures that pertained to my case. And i can look things up and post them as comments come in to try to help you understand. I am not a layer or paralegal but i know how it feels when you are desperate for answers.I hope to tell you more of my expeiriances as your comments come in and i pray you and i learn from each and for one another.